I Want to Make the Way I Blog Feel Authentic Again

A painting of an orange cat with green eyes lying down with its paws folded under it.

I want to start blogging more again.

I’ve thought about this for the past few weeks, mostly in terms of what sort of content I’d actually like to post. For a LONG time in the past, I tried to model my style of blogging, & the content of what I wrote about around other blogs I enjoyed reading at the time. Which isn’t inherently a BAD thing, it’s just that now when I read those same blogs, I’m put off by how salesy & oftentimes contrived they were?

If it works for those people, it works & I’m not demonizing them as a group, but I will say I’ve started to find those sorts of blogs off-putting. Ones which are overly-optimized, & whether or not they preach “authenticity”, they usually end up being a VERY carefully curated look at someone’s life. The type where the blogger becomes some sort of guru & starts having “retreats” & charging $1000 for an online course?

Ehhhhhhh, gonna pass.

I honesty used to look up to that sort of blogger & aspired to be like them, & be able to sell expensive courses, & perhaps some things can still be learned from them as far as marketing, but that’s just not the direction I want to head in, I think that’s boring & is of no interest to me now.

You know what blog I really still hold in high regard, even though it’s no longer being updated & is now an archive?

Rookie Mag.

I have VERY fond memories of reading Rookie as a teen & in my early 20’s. They had so many things I liked, without ever being phony or salesy. They sold stuff, but they never came off as a greasy used car salesman trying to manipulate people into buying their expensive online course with a VERY long sales page filled with 33 testimonials about why they course was gonna ~ChAnGe YoUr LiFe~.

They had fashion photos, & poetry, & stories about peoples’ lives that were interesting or that I could relate to. There were photoshoots with such unique aesthetics, & very creative & awesome tutorials, & opinions about things that mattered a lot to me. They had super good art & illustrations, evocative & talented writing, & a sort of inherent authenticity & celebration of the joy of self-exploration that filled me with such hope & excitement.

Rookie Mag was FUN.

Will my blog be that level of amazing? Maybe not, but rather than looking up to people I just don’t respect as much anymore, I’m going to take inspiration for my blog, & my definition of what “blogging” should be, from something I still consider to be unique & magical instead of sleek & phony.

– Ashlee 🐸


What I watched, listened to, read, & played in November 2020!

Oof, I really didn’t watch or listen to a lot of stuff this month haha. I was stressed for a lot of the month, so I ended up just listening to a lot of “The Adventure Zone” because it’s a major comfort show for me!! But I enjoyed all the things I consumed, & I FINALLY watched “The Rocky Horror Picture Show” for the VERY FIRST TIME!!!


  1. Transformers: Prime S2: EP. 6
  2. Steven Universe: S3: EP. 2
  3. Grimm: S1: EP. 1, 2, 4, 5

Total: 6 Episodes


  1. Frogs: A Chorus of Colors by Deborah A. Behler & John L. Behler
  2. Wild Edible Mushrooms: Tips & Recipes for Every Mushroom Hunter by Hope H. Miller
  3. Kingdom Classification: Molds, Mushrooms, & Other Fungi
  4. Soar to Success: Mountain Gorillas in Danger by Rita Ritchie
  5. *Reader’s Digest – Animal Closeups: Penguins: A Funny Bird by Beatrice Fontanel

Total: 5 Books


  1. The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Total: 1 Movies & Documentaries


  1. The Adventure Zone: Episodes 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61
  2. Welcome to Night Vale: Episodes 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 110
  3. The Queer Thesperience: Peaches Christ, Kaylie Horowitz, Dani Ernewein
    (I design the promotional graphics for this podcast so….you should totally check this podcast out haha)
  4. Cults: Episodes 22, 23
  5. Jar of Rebuke: Episodes 6, 7
    (I ALSO design the promotional graphics for this podcast & read the end credits so….you should also check out this one lol)
  6. The Spooky Sapphic Storyteller: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7
  7. A OK: EP. 1
  8. The Great American Scream: 37 (Cryptids)
  9. Midnight Margaritas: Samhain
    (Another great podcast that my dear friend Casper Oliver is a co-host on!!!)
  10. Papillon Podcast: Halloween Edition: Jar of Rebuke

Total: 38 Podcast Episodes


  1. Rhino Hi-Five: They Might Be Giants

Total: 1 Albums


  1. *Dig Dug (ongoing)

Total: 1 Games

*Things marked with the asterisk mean it’s something I’ve read/watched/listened to before, everything else is new to me!